DO Live in the present. Let your partner helps you. Create mini traditions. Say no. Do small changes at a time . DON'T Let others' opinions affect you. Feel bad when you don't know the answer. Be afraid of mistakes. Stop learning. Stop having time for you.
You're beautiful, and don't let anyone tell you any different. Love you, and love yourself to recognize sometimes you need to change. Change doesn't mean you don't love yourself anymore, you just love you differently.