I was raised by this saying. Never let anyone who can't even support their own family and lies about heir own life events to try and make themselves feel better about their own pathetic life tell you anything about yourself or your family. The food stamp/welfare attitude was probably passed on by your family which is why your attitude is "it's everyone else's problem. Every one that doesn't agree or do what I say is against me" mentality. It's the kids learning from you that will suffer.