The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yoursel.
It's the feeling when the don't-want-to-be-planned meet the never-give-up-planning. The more people try to fix things, the deeper they dig into bitter mood. Problem is: haven't got the courage to become absolutely mean.