If the Avengers were cats, Tony would totally be a sleek Siamese in purrfectly tailored armor. And the Hulk would definitely be a big fluffy Persian - or a Maine Coon. <<<< And they wouldn't be the Avengers. They'd be the Aveng-purrs.
Blaming Disney, Marvel, or DC for one's high expectations of men makes as much sense as blaming Wonder Woman for one's unrealistic expectations of women! Fiction is meant to be anything, even unrealistic, real life is a whole other matter!