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Taking time to each day to acknowledge and share your gratitude can shift your mindset & bring you more joy. There are no limitations to what you can be grateful for: a sunny day, loving relationship, hearing your favorite song, and so much more!

"An Attitude of Gratitude" and the 5:1 Ratio During The Holidays

Taking time to each day to acknowledge and share your gratitude can shift your mindset & bring you more joy. There are no limitations to what you can be grateful for: a sunny day, loving relationship, hearing your favorite song, and so much more!

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The Gottman Institute

Our romantic relationships usually start with a lot of passion and exciting intimacy, but often times that excitement can fade over time as the rigors of life kick in. "Roommate syndrome" is the term used to describe this dynamic in couples where the relationship has become an arrangement and lacks romantic love and affection. Gottman Institute, John Gottman, Romantic Love, Roommate, Syndrome, Affection, True Love, Love Story, Dynamic

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How to avoid roommate syndrome

Our romantic relationships usually start with a lot of passion and exciting intimacy, but often times that excitement can fade over time as the rigors of life kick in. "Roommate syndrome" is the term used to describe this dynamic in couples where the relationship has become an arrangement and lacks romantic love and affection.

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The Gottman Institute

Rituals are defined as meaningful activities that families create to bring connection and stability to the family dynamic. Rituals hold relationships and family life together and create cohesiveness within family identity. Family Traditions, Holiday Traditions, Trust Friendship, Baby Witch, Relationship Advice, Relationships, Build Trust

Family Traditions

Holiday Traditions

Trust Friendship

Relationship Advice

Thanksgiving Rituals of Connection

Rituals are defined as meaningful activities that families create to bring connection and stability to the family dynamic. Rituals hold relationships and family life together and create cohesiveness within family identity.

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The Gottman Institute

With the weather shifting and the holidays coming towards us fast, it's important to remember that snuggles can be a great way to connect with your partner! Wholesome Memes, Funny Comics, Self Improvement, Snuggles, Couple Goals, Unique Gifts

Wholesome Memes

Self Improvement

Snuggles are important!

With the weather shifting and the holidays coming towards us fast, it's important to remember that snuggles can be a great way to connect with your partner!

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The Gottman Institute

The goal of active listening is to listen (not just hear) to the speaker’s words with empathy and without judgment. Try this active listening exercise and see how it affects the level of emotional attraction you feel for each other. Lmft, Active Listening, Couple Stuff, Future Career, Lovey Dovey, Effective Communication, Therapy Ideas, Leveling

Active Listening

Effective Communication

Stress Reducing Conversations

The goal of active listening is to listen (not just hear) to the speaker’s words with empathy and without judgment. Try this active listening exercise and see how it affects the level of emotional attraction you feel for each other.

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The Gottman Institute

A good way to approach any perpetual problem is having a conversation where the goal is to listen while finding the deeper meaning behind your partner’s side. Instead of only hearing what’s on the surface try to find the story or dream behind their position. Set aside some time to discuss things where each person gets the time to talk about how they feel. Partner Quotes, Deep Meaning, Listening To You, Phd, Contract, Trauma

Listening To You

Perpetual Problems around Finances

A good way to approach any perpetual problem is having a conversation where the goal is to listen while finding the deeper meaning behind your partner’s side. Instead of only hearing what’s on the surface try to find the story or dream behind their position. Set aside some time to discuss things where each person gets the time to talk about how they feel.

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The Gottman Institute

Through their research on couples, Drs. Julie & John Gottman learned a lot about friendship and its role in romantic relationships. Here, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman explains the secret of lasting relationships. Going Away, The Secret, Jenny, Romantic, Couples, Face

The secret to a lasting relationship

Through their research on couples, Drs. Julie & John Gottman learned a lot about friendship and its role in romantic relationships. Here, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman explains the secret of lasting relationships.

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The Gottman Institute

The next time you are sitting next to your partner and are tempted to look at your phone, turn towards your partner instead of a screen and have a conversation. Even if it is just a check in about how your day was, it can have a positive impact on your relationship. Why People, Conversation, Partners

Six Reasons Why People Turn to Tech and How to Turn Towards Each Other Instead

The next time you are sitting next to your partner and are tempted to look at your phone, turn towards your partner instead of a screen and have a conversation. Even if it is just a check in about how your day was, it can have a positive impact on your relationship.

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The Gottman Institute

In the realm of relationships, our choices and actions can be driven by two fundamental emotions: love or fear. While fear may seem like a natural response to protect ourselves, operating from a place of love can have a transformative impact on our relationships. By consciously choosing love over fear, we can nurture healthy connections, foster growth, and create a harmonious environment for love to flourish. Choose Love, Love Can, Meaning Of Love, Emotional Connection, Misunderstandings, Growth Mindset

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Choose Love Over Fear

In the realm of relationships, our choices and actions can be driven by two fundamental emotions: love or fear. While fear may seem like a natural response to protect ourselves, operating from a place of love can have a transformative impact on our relationships. By consciously choosing love over fear, we can nurture healthy connections, foster growth, and create a harmonious environment for love to flourish.

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The Gottman Institute

"The fear of commitment can show up differently for different people, but at its core, it’s all about being afraid of getting too close, vulnerable, or dependent on someone else. People dealing with this fear often struggle with the idea of long-term commitments like marriage or even just opening up emotionally in a relationship." Fear Of Commitment, Attachment Theory, Couples Therapy, Soul Searching, Leap Of Faith, Happy Relationships, Good Communication, Emotional Support

Fear Of Commitment

Attachment Theory

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Happy Relationships

Good Communication

Emotional Support

The fear of commitment

"The fear of commitment can show up differently for different people, but at its core, it’s all about being afraid of getting too close, vulnerable, or dependent on someone else. People dealing with this fear often struggle with the idea of long-term commitments like marriage or even just opening up emotionally in a relationship."

The Gottman Institute

The Gottman Institute

While trying to manage every detail what happens around you can feel like you're minimizing uncertainty, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. As Hailey Paige Magee puts it, "Whether we’re 'helping,' 'generous,' 'saving them from themselves,' or 'doing it for our relationships,'" trying to control others instead of yourself just isn't worth the effort. If you or someone you know is in danger, or an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. Hailey Paige, Magee, Codependency, Mental And Emotional Health, Self Help Books, Resentments, Domestic Violence, I Need You

Mental And Emotional Health

Self Help Books

Domestic Violence

Control & reactions

While trying to manage every detail what happens around you can feel like you're minimizing uncertainty, it can be emotionally and physically exhausting. As Hailey Paige Magee puts it, "Whether we’re 'helping,' 'generous,' 'saving them from themselves,' or 'doing it for our relationships,'" trying to control others instead of yourself just isn't worth the effort. If you or someone you know is in danger, or an abusive situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

The Gottman Institute

The Gottman Institute

Dr. Donald Baucom, a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He found that people get what they expect. People with low expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated poorly, and people with higher expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated well. High Expectations Quotes, Expectation Quotes, Relationship Quotes, Not Good Enough

High Expectations Quotes

Expectation Quotes

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Not Good Enough

The truth about expectations in relationships

Dr. Donald Baucom, a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina, studied marital expectations for a decade. He found that people get what they expect. People with low expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated poorly, and people with higher expectations tend to be in relationships where they are treated well.

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The Gottman Institute

For many neurodiverse relationships to thrive, it’s important to focus on understanding the differences in how each partner processes information and how this impacts their ability to understand each other. Honoring and meeting these basic needs for nervous system regulation can play a huge role in developing intimacy and bringing the relationship closer. - Yolanda Renteria, LPC, NCC Relationship Dynamics, Relationship Psychology, Verbal Cues, Couples Therapist, Feeling Rejected, Dyspraxia, Sensory Overload

Relationship Dynamics

Relationship Psychology

Couples Therapist

Feeling Rejected

Sensory Overload

Becoming overstimulated

For many neurodiverse relationships to thrive, it’s important to focus on understanding the differences in how each partner processes information and how this impacts their ability to understand each other. Honoring and meeting these basic needs for nervous system regulation can play a huge role in developing intimacy and bringing the relationship closer. - Yolanda Renteria, LPC, NCC

The Gottman Institute

The Gottman Institute

Sometimes when people feel disconnected from their emotions, it's harder to connect with others. It can be a survival response that has developed over time, like having a shield around their feelings to stay safe. And it's also important to understand that having that shield can make it difficult to have strong and happy relationships with others. To make things better, we need to understand why we built that shield in the first place and take actions to change it. Feeling Disconnected, Girl Advice, Feeling Helpless, Body Scanning, Mean People, Logical Thinking

Feeling Disconnected

Feeling Helpless

Logical Thinking

Understanding emotional disconnection

Sometimes when people feel disconnected from their emotions, it's harder to connect with others. It can be a survival response that has developed over time, like having a shield around their feelings to stay safe. And it's also important to understand that having that shield can make it difficult to have strong and happy relationships with others. To make things better, we need to understand why we built that shield in the first place and take actions to change it.

The Gottman Institute

The Gottman Institute

There could be several reasons why you feel afraid to say “no” to your partner: fear of rejection if you do not comply, you feel like their love and admiration is conditional on your compliance, or you experienced abuse in the past. If you notice that you feel anxious when you say “no” to your partner, it could be something to look at very closely. Relationships Love, Healthy Relationships, Making Excuses, Leisure Activities, Self Acceptance, Compliance

Relationships Love

Healthy Relationships

Leisure Activities

Self Acceptance

Saying no to your partner

There could be several reasons why you feel afraid to say “no” to your partner: fear of rejection if you do not comply, you feel like their love and admiration is conditional on your compliance, or you experienced abuse in the past. If you notice that you feel anxious when you say “no” to your partner, it could be something to look at very closely.

The Gottman Institute

The Gottman Institute